The Anatomy of Communication in a Relationship!

The main issue is the lack of communication! It is a skill that people in relationships lack all over the country, but I feel like it is especially an issue in the lower financial class, and under educated households.  Communication is a natural and nurtured reaction and skill. I say it is both nature and nurture driven because yes some people are just great communicators, but the way they choose to communicate is just as important as the act itself.

In a lot of relationships both sides bring baggage and the lack of effective communication is 1 big suitcase that people lay on their mate’s emotional floor! Plus if a person has not seen an effective relationship where communication is vibrant, successful, respectful, and integral then they are most likely to bring that broken style of communication into their relationship as well. The faults of cheating and revenge, and spite are all acted out in most cases because people refuse to just admit they have made mistakes, or feel a certain way about the transgressions of their mate, yet they don’t know how to tell them verbally, so they act out instead.

A simple talk about financial stress and feelings of not want and abandon can be resolved by both parties sitting down and discussing the when’s and why’s of their relationship saving them from committing crimes of the heart against the other person, because they are to filled with the anxiety, embarrassment, and fear they are filled with when they think of just talking about their feelings. This issue is not just a man’s problem; it is a sickness and disease both sexes have.

Men call it pride and foolish terms such as “me being me”, and “this is what men do” when they are explaining their childish behavior, and their inability to talk and effectively communicate their feelings. Mainly because they weren’t shown an image of a man even doing that for a fear he would be conceived as weak or gay!

Women on the other hand have no issue with discussing their emotions and issues with their friends, family, and strangers, but when it comes to their mate they clam up on the true important matters and focus on trivial things that the man has no idea of why it even matters!  Which cause a void of trust and faith and opens the door for lies and deception on both part, yet their mothers and girlfriends will know the whole scoop! Their childish behavior is brought on by a fear of being alone, and missing out on “a good thing” because if they just show a man the image they think the man thinks he wants to see, then he will never leave them. Even though we all know this is false.

Honest and truthful communication a clean slate and realizing not all issues have resolutions that are prevalent and immediate, but if the issues are on the table then they can be worked on and ironed out between both parties, as long as they are committed to doing so and bringing all issues to the fore front can only relive stress, and avoid ignorant and permanent damage effecting all sides of people physically and emotionally!  It will also break the mold of ineffective communication for your children because they will see how adults are supposed to handle life amongst each other, and in business dealings as well. Effective and decisive communication builds confidence and integrity in people, and also shows a person’s worth in way that is immeasurable.

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How is your Union, really protecting you?

Verizon workers go on strike! Verizon makes a lot of money every year right? The latter statement is more important than the first statement, because the strikers are “land line” service workers a Unionized job, which is a prehistoric service that has lost its viability!

On the other hand the service Verizon is eating and getting fat from is its wireless service, which isn’t Unionized!
The workers in the land line division are suffering from 1 sickness it is called “spoiled employee syndrome!” Unfortunately they don’t realize they are not a viable investment anymore, I say “they” because even though they are physically telephone lines, they are the only unnecessary part of the process! Verizon is the #2 Worlds largest mobile phone provider, that work force isn’t represented by an Union, so they have a better opportunity to treat their employees in that division how they want to.

It is the Union’s job to acquire the best possible wages and working conditions possible for the Union worker, but when the Union worker is costing the company more than the Union worker is producing, because the Union worker’s product is inept, and out dated then what are both sides to do? On Verizon’s side they could continue to pull profits from the wireless workers production and keep the wire line employees happy! On the flip side, Verizon’s wireless operation isn’t Unionized by design, not accident!

It actually would have been a mistake if Verizon would have allowed Unions in their wireless division, because they would be stuck, in the precarious situation they are in now with the land line division, which is what are we going to do when your not profitable anymore?

As a Union Stewart I don’t want to represent an employee that doesn’t pay Union dues, but I have too if he/she asks to be represented. At the same time I don’t feel like it is right for Union workers to force a company’s hand by striking, when the consessions the company is asking them to make are actually understandable.

Verizon is asking for the employee to go to 5 sick days a year, take up more of the slack for their healthcare, accept pension freezes in exchange for a more aggressive 401 retirement package these 3 things are some important issues, but the 1 thing these 45,000 Verizon employees striking aren’t thinking about is, land line phone is extinct!

With VOiP, and cellular phones alone not to mention your free Skype, and Google phone options many people are “cutting” the cord of land lines! Who is really at fault here? In my opinion it is the Union! They have lost the chance to educate and really smack their employees back to reality!
Those 45,000 jobs can and will look really good to temp workers, International workers, and staffing agencies, that aren’t going to demand any benefits, or retirement options! In this case it was and is the Unions job to show the employee just where they stand and how they really don’t have fight in this situation! Verizon even bargaining with the employees is an admonishment, because they actually can show where the employees aren’t worth the money and benefits they have come accustom to having!

The Union was suppose to be the parent of the 45,000 Verizon land line employees, a mother/father figure teaching them that unfortunately everything doesn’t always turn out the way you want it too, but at this point you really can’t expect to continue to receive “Cadillac” benefits, for a “AMC” type of job!

The CWA is responsible for what’s best for its members, and sometimes that includes telling the members, this is the best deal we have and we are going to get, once you compare the members value vs Verizon’s cost! In this case, The CWA should have made the membership understand this ain’t 1989, and the wireless division of Verizon really doesn’t owe them anything!