The Anatomy of Communication in a Relationship!

The main issue is the lack of communication! It is a skill that people in relationships lack all over the country, but I feel like it is especially an issue in the lower financial class, and under educated households.  Communication is a natural and nurtured reaction and skill. I say it is both nature and nurture driven because yes some people are just great communicators, but the way they choose to communicate is just as important as the act itself.

In a lot of relationships both sides bring baggage and the lack of effective communication is 1 big suitcase that people lay on their mate’s emotional floor! Plus if a person has not seen an effective relationship where communication is vibrant, successful, respectful, and integral then they are most likely to bring that broken style of communication into their relationship as well. The faults of cheating and revenge, and spite are all acted out in most cases because people refuse to just admit they have made mistakes, or feel a certain way about the transgressions of their mate, yet they don’t know how to tell them verbally, so they act out instead.

A simple talk about financial stress and feelings of not want and abandon can be resolved by both parties sitting down and discussing the when’s and why’s of their relationship saving them from committing crimes of the heart against the other person, because they are to filled with the anxiety, embarrassment, and fear they are filled with when they think of just talking about their feelings. This issue is not just a man’s problem; it is a sickness and disease both sexes have.

Men call it pride and foolish terms such as “me being me”, and “this is what men do” when they are explaining their childish behavior, and their inability to talk and effectively communicate their feelings. Mainly because they weren’t shown an image of a man even doing that for a fear he would be conceived as weak or gay!

Women on the other hand have no issue with discussing their emotions and issues with their friends, family, and strangers, but when it comes to their mate they clam up on the true important matters and focus on trivial things that the man has no idea of why it even matters!  Which cause a void of trust and faith and opens the door for lies and deception on both part, yet their mothers and girlfriends will know the whole scoop! Their childish behavior is brought on by a fear of being alone, and missing out on “a good thing” because if they just show a man the image they think the man thinks he wants to see, then he will never leave them. Even though we all know this is false.

Honest and truthful communication a clean slate and realizing not all issues have resolutions that are prevalent and immediate, but if the issues are on the table then they can be worked on and ironed out between both parties, as long as they are committed to doing so and bringing all issues to the fore front can only relive stress, and avoid ignorant and permanent damage effecting all sides of people physically and emotionally!  It will also break the mold of ineffective communication for your children because they will see how adults are supposed to handle life amongst each other, and in business dealings as well. Effective and decisive communication builds confidence and integrity in people, and also shows a person’s worth in way that is immeasurable.

How is your Union, really protecting you?

Verizon workers go on strike! Verizon makes a lot of money every year right? The latter statement is more important than the first statement, because the strikers are “land line” service workers a Unionized job, which is a prehistoric service that has lost its viability!

On the other hand the service Verizon is eating and getting fat from is its wireless service, which isn’t Unionized!
The workers in the land line division are suffering from 1 sickness it is called “spoiled employee syndrome!” Unfortunately they don’t realize they are not a viable investment anymore, I say “they” because even though they are physically telephone lines, they are the only unnecessary part of the process! Verizon is the #2 Worlds largest mobile phone provider, that work force isn’t represented by an Union, so they have a better opportunity to treat their employees in that division how they want to.

It is the Union’s job to acquire the best possible wages and working conditions possible for the Union worker, but when the Union worker is costing the company more than the Union worker is producing, because the Union worker’s product is inept, and out dated then what are both sides to do? On Verizon’s side they could continue to pull profits from the wireless workers production and keep the wire line employees happy! On the flip side, Verizon’s wireless operation isn’t Unionized by design, not accident!

It actually would have been a mistake if Verizon would have allowed Unions in their wireless division, because they would be stuck, in the precarious situation they are in now with the land line division, which is what are we going to do when your not profitable anymore?

As a Union Stewart I don’t want to represent an employee that doesn’t pay Union dues, but I have too if he/she asks to be represented. At the same time I don’t feel like it is right for Union workers to force a company’s hand by striking, when the consessions the company is asking them to make are actually understandable.

Verizon is asking for the employee to go to 5 sick days a year, take up more of the slack for their healthcare, accept pension freezes in exchange for a more aggressive 401 retirement package these 3 things are some important issues, but the 1 thing these 45,000 Verizon employees striking aren’t thinking about is, land line phone is extinct!

With VOiP, and cellular phones alone not to mention your free Skype, and Google phone options many people are “cutting” the cord of land lines! Who is really at fault here? In my opinion it is the Union! They have lost the chance to educate and really smack their employees back to reality!
Those 45,000 jobs can and will look really good to temp workers, International workers, and staffing agencies, that aren’t going to demand any benefits, or retirement options! In this case it was and is the Unions job to show the employee just where they stand and how they really don’t have fight in this situation! Verizon even bargaining with the employees is an admonishment, because they actually can show where the employees aren’t worth the money and benefits they have come accustom to having!

The Union was suppose to be the parent of the 45,000 Verizon land line employees, a mother/father figure teaching them that unfortunately everything doesn’t always turn out the way you want it too, but at this point you really can’t expect to continue to receive “Cadillac” benefits, for a “AMC” type of job!

The CWA is responsible for what’s best for its members, and sometimes that includes telling the members, this is the best deal we have and we are going to get, once you compare the members value vs Verizon’s cost! In this case, The CWA should have made the membership understand this ain’t 1989, and the wireless division of Verizon really doesn’t owe them anything!

WELFARE AND FOODSTAMP REFORM 2011

I think the law being proposed in Kentucky by lawmaker Rep. Lonnie Napier (R), as reported @Kentucky.com, by J. Brammer of the Lexington Herald, {Kentucky lawmaker wants random drug testing for welfare recipients Read more: http://www.kentucky.com/2011/01/17/1600950/kentucky-lawmaker-wants-random.html#storylink=misearch#ixzz1C6UzSY5R} is a fantastic and effective law to fight drugs and to save families from just being in a stagnant unproductive circle. I think that making parents responsible while receiving welfare and other government  funds because they should made to follow the laws for the simple fact they can’t support themselves and dependents on their own like other people do.

If you can’t buy alcohol, beer, cigarettes, or any other non-food items with food stamps why should you be able to enjoy other privileged items like people who aren’t on government assistance does? I feel even though drugs are illegal they are a “privilege” and yes if caught with them or under the influence any person should be prosecuted. With that said what someone does with their hard earned money is their prerogative, but their money shouldn’t go towards others who don’t work (for whatever reason and excuse) and allow them to indulge in the same privileges.

I think that if parents were actually being responsible for their children then they wouldn’t want drugs to be in any vicinity of their children. I believe this move will help people become more viable to the working force as well, because one of the biggest issues that negatively affect allot of lower income job seekers is they can’t pass the urine test. This would allow them to get themselves together so they can realize drugs are now going to not only keep them from making legal money it is also going to keep them from getting the scraps they learn to settle for from the government. This is a responsibility gaining opportunity that a lot of people won’t have a choice but to make positive changes to the way they live their lives, that will prove to be for the better. I think this type of law can also be used to make more single family homes stronger and help break that cycle of ignorance and laziness, most people in those predicaments seem to accept.  Parent’s need to realize the first impressions and mannerisms children learn and emulate are theirs. When drugs are represented in their lives, especially early as in toddlers and adolescent ages, drugs will leave a pivotal impression that can make drugs and the negative life experiences which accompany them, an acceptable way of life. Those negative implications and derogatory stereotypes and culture views can stain them for life. These issues and problems tend to follow so many people for whole family generations and help mold them and sustain them in a low income and poor outlook on life bloodline. Often whatever positive that comes from these negative situations usual are spawned from life changing and shocking worse comes to worse situations, that scare some people straight.

In a more important state of affairs drugs should never be allowed to be in the home of the  custodial parents’ home.  I believe this must be taken seriously and should be enforced with strong discipline and consequential methods. Custodial parent’s getting child support benefits which are being mandated, monitored, enforced  and distributed by state and federal governments should make sure they are representing a legal and responsible party in the child’s life. The courts are saying the custodial parent is the most responsible parent for the child and his/her home is the safest and most nuturing place for a child is to live. This isn’t possible if drug use is present in the home because it is “ILLEGAL” first of all, and it also fosters a potentially dangerous and risky housing situation for the child. In the case where the mother fails the drug test then if the father is in a position where he can take care of the child he should be given that opportunity, the child support should be ceased for at least a 3- 6 month time giving the mother time to complete a drug abuse counseling program.  With the custodial parent being automatically placed in this position, then a drug free enviroment is paramount and should all ways be expected from the custodial parent and enforced by the government. Especially in the circumstances if a mother is living in any type of public housing, or in housing provided by federal programs ie HUD, HABITAT, SECTION-8, etc, receiving food stamps, or getting medicare benefits of any type.  It is the governments responsibilty to make sure they are taking care of these children and looking after them because they are placing children in these homes and judging them to be legally fit. I also believe that this law should extended to foster parents and those who recieve any foster care monies temporary or permanently. Adoptive parents should also be drug screened as well as day cares, and any other childcare provider that accepts government funds no matter what types of funds those are!

Law abiding citizens and lawmakers, have to realize that if drugs can’t be purchased with funds from the government, directly or indirectly through the illegal sale of their government benefits like selling food stamps, medicines, identity fraud for medical services etc…  then drug dealers will have to reform and scout different places and environments to sell their product. In the government housing  projects, and other urban ghettos these new ways of crime and drug prevention can make those places a  better place to live. Along with this program they need to provide fee based counseling for those who violate the no drug laws and rules. Family counseling should be provided, at a fee which could be worked off in community service, so the children can know how drugs directly have negatively effected their home, and they can be placed in the parents rehabilitation process as a direct derivative to drug use.  These actions are the only way some people are going to give up those practices and trivial abuses of their lives and illegal activities. If people want to get high then they should get a job and get their own shelter and then when they are pulling their own weight they can dictate what they can do with their own funds in their own homes. Welfare isn’t for everyone in America, those that work and suffer and survive everyday without taking advantage of the system deserve to buy whatever they want, with their money, even if it is illegal because that is what the justice system is there for.  But if you aren’t earning a decent days wage because you choose not too, and sit around and scheme and lie to get ahead in life then there should be limits placed on just what you can do with what you get.

Urine testing can lead the way to new and better employment opportunity, because now the benefit for not working and getting a welfare check has just gotten smaller, along with this law they need to add an amendment to make food stamp purchases follow a healthy guideline and formula. People can’t continue just fill their  shopping baskets with junk food and processed goods that are killing them and their children, which create a bigger problem hypnotizing and handcuffing children to a life that will involve these horrible practices and eating behaviors. This is a type of abuse that is irresponsible and costing regular everyday working people more at the grocery store because the amount of food they buy on the governments tab allows the food providers to hike up the price because the demand really isn’t being factored correctly. Someone using food stamps are at a better position when it comes to buying power in the marketplace because they don’t have to make choices based on the price charts like normal people do. It is also a major benefactor promoting to the decline in children health and youth obesity, including diabetes and high blood pressure. The basic and small change to just what is available to purchase using food stamps can change children and adult medicare costs in the billions over a few years, more than paying for the drug testing, enforcement, and counseling costs all by itself.  The families diet is so important, because those welfare and food stamp recipients are killing the health care system in cases that deal with preventative disease treatments,  medications, and surgeries in America.

Enacting laws requiring urine and blood testing  to people that receive federal, and state benefits, aligned with strong and strict  enforcement and consequences supported by family counseling, custodial responsibility revocation, civil service as punishment, and in the most extreme situations jail time.  As well as changing and monitoring the way food stamps are valued, consumed, and spent can lead to millions of dollars saved by the government in fraud, medicare, and crime fighting leading to more production from tax profits and benefiting all Americans in the near future.